I was couponing yesterday and I flipped open to the Target flyer. They were advertising for Valentine’s Day, with Fifty Shades of Grey. They show a seductive scene and Mr Grey himself appealing to whoever likes skinny, pasty,pale young men.(my husbands more of a man). I shrugged and flipped the page. I opened my news feed sometime later and someone was posting about Fifty Shades of Grey. The points were valid. It’s not love, So when is it okay for wealthy men to abuse women for sex? Etc. The problem is the warped sense of right and wrong people have. They read these blogs, they listen to the points and they go to the movie anyway. I read one comment that said” Give me a break people its just entertainment”. ( Insert sigh here)
Years ago the news came out about a very powerful man that was seducing a young intern. People were outraged. A man in a position of power should not use it to abuse a young girl. Other people said the girl was a variety of choice words.( of course it was her fault. )She obviously seduced him. Another Pastor fell( shocking I know) He was said to have had inappropriate relations with a very young girl. He would not even have been arrested except he brought her across state lines. He’s going to serve a long time.(Good) Just recently a member of the patriarchal movement fell. Took advantage of a young girl from 15 -22 or more. (Of course, the men in the Christian community blame the girl, oh and we should pray for him. )They don’t in the first case though because, ah well, that was Bill Clinton. 7 years ago a 16-year old friend of the family forced himself on a little girl. He threw her in the dryer and whispered that he’d cook her to death. Turned the dryer on. Someone I know had her head bashed into the wall by her husband. She has hearing trouble in that ear to this day. (That occurred in front of other men, Marines, in fact) Disgusting isn’t it. The thing is in every situation, consensual or not, there was a sense of dominance and submission.
Let me add sexy music to those scenes. Does it make it entertainment? Don’t you think most everyone involved here would love to go back and rewrite history.? I know I would. Despite what professionals and well-meaning people tell you, you don’t just “get over it or get it all out of our system”. There is no off button on your mind. God designed our mind with trigger warnings to protect us. Sometimes it’s more than we can bare.
So now you might be saying this is not the same thing. I gave you the benefit of the doubt and googled the pdf for the book. I will not read any of the areas that get into vivid sex scenes. It would be very unhealthy for me. I don’t want to go down that road, at all. I’m skimming. I see a very insecure young girl. She likes books and does not think she is all that pretty. Christian Grey is a handsome billionaire. Let’s all just stop right there. Let’s change the ages a little. make Anastasia 18. Then let Mr.Grey do what he does to Ana. Do you still think that is okay? Make it your teenage daughter or your sister. Is that the kind of man you want her to be with? Oh, wait you see Ana knows it’s right because she gets this “charge” of electricity and that’s how she knows she wants to have sex with him.(Insert another sigh here) Which up to this point she never has. I posted an article on my facebook the other day. You can read it here: https://www.facebook.com/danbarbdjsc/posts/10204915159093460
The desire for that lifestyle starts somewhere…Porn aka; Fifty Shades, is not harmless.
I would like you to consider the atrocities we hear on the news about women in other cultures. The abuse, the rape. We are appalled, yet we here in America worship and glorify it on the big screen? Sex trafficking is at alarming numbers( they should be at 0) http://www.8daysfilm.org/
Writing a book or producing a movie that tells people that violent sex towards women is okay, is unfathomable. He does not just have sex ( outside of marriage) but he uses whips and actually beats her to where she’s scared. She’s afraid to say anything because she does not want him to leave her.Hello? Folks that is not love, entertainment or just a movie to peek your curiosity. That is dangerous. There are women that are afraid to leave. Some never get that option. We read about them in the headlines
5142288,http://www.morningjournal.com/general-news/20150209/ohio-students-death-underscores-domestic-dangers( this one especially fits)
“When that victim tries to remove herself from the control, he’s going to up the ante,” said Nancy Neylon, executive director for the Ohio Domestic Violence Network.
That control can first manifest in such areas as wanting to decide where the person goes, spends free time, or even dresses.
“That’s absolutely where it starts,” Neylon said. “Even victims who have been physically battered talk about that emotional control as the worst part.”
(So romantic I think I’ll go grab popcorn and a huge soda to read that article.)
The sad part are the moms going to see this movie.I know I’ve heard you talk about this hot scene or that great position, or can you believe… The sad part is yes they’re people who can believe and they are so afraid looking for a way out. Young girls, older women, the unfortunate thing is there is no age discrimination in sex crimes. I suspect if this had happened to them they would not be in line, no they’d join me and my friends who are sick that people think this is acceptable. I am a happily married women with a past I’d like to forget and it definitely has not been easy but, maybe we need to go back to the definition of what love means.Love is not Dominance and Submission. Love is two flesh becoming ONE flesh. Giving to each other. (Funny I thought women HATED submission.)I would never purposefully abuse my own flesh. Maybe just maybe you have been told a lie about what love is and what pleasure is. I wish I could appeal to your conscience, but I can’t. It seems you checked that at the ticket counter.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Fifty Shades of Abuse. That’s where it starts.( oh wait she’s not wearing a negligee.)